R u Alone

Have you felt anytime that you are lonely? The obvious answer to this question is sure 'YES'. Then the next obvious question is why people feel sometime lonely and deserted. Well thats i think human tendency and each and everyone regardless of the behaviour feels one day lonely and alone. Now why i am writing on this topic is because i used to feel lonely most of the times. Its not because i dont have any friends, or nobody cares for me and thinks i am there in among them. But i think its all because of expectation............... This expectation is a word that kills everyone one or the other day. Well i don't take this topic as i might write on this sometime in future. So what might be the possible causes when a person feels lonely, sad, helpless, demotivated? Well the most obvious answer is that the person needs to prove among his group and if he finds that you are nothing or the group doesnt care about him. Well he might be wrong in the way to understand things, but this may lead to an obvious change in the behaviour of the person. He then might treat you very respectfully and the jokes and fun he makes when all are together, you may see him with a quite smile trying to show that he is also enjoying, but the reality is that this is hurting him. The best thing to avoid such scenario is to divert your concentration into some other activities, such as games, some hobby that you like. Why i didnt say in work is because work will further spoil him and he may then cut off from his group. The second cause might be because of not able to convince or find your love. I think this is the most hurting scenario as the person either behave in a very rude way or will be quite. Both the condition will break the self confidence and interally kills the person with unnecessary sorrow. People take this relationship very seriously and it starts from friendship and then to love. The person whether a guy or a girl, first understands and reads the mind of others and then decide to carry on with the relationship or not. If any of the party is not interested or have any other reason, then the other person should restrict himself. Well then you might be thinking that love dont see all this, it just happens...... Well then if thats the case then be ready to cry if unfortunately something worst happens. Its very harsh to say, but life is based on practicality and the decision has to come with the acceptence of mind and brain.

Now if you feel lonely, cant you have a single person to remember that will make you happy and cheerful, if your answer is 'NO' then i need to recall your memory and ask you people.... cant your parents will make you happy? Are they havent given you enough love and affection so that when you feel down, there face will keep you up. I remember in the movie K3G (Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham) when SK (Shahrukh Khan) says that 'If anytime you feel lonely and pressurized, and sees no sign of hope and all in this world come to conquer you, close your eyes and remember your Mama and Papa then all the things will become easy and you will get the courage to do what you didnt have expected yourself to do, and you will then see that the success will be at your feet'. I remember these lines and if you really mean it then in this world you dont need anyone not even a friend, thats a very true fact. I am not commenting on the relationship of friendship as i consider this to be the next best relationship after your parents. And also if you have any friend that is very close to you and understads you then you are one of the luckiest guy in this beautiful world....................................

World is really great and you make it worth by nurishing it by giving happiness and pleasure to the people around you regardless they think you as something or not. Well now i am feeling a bit relieved after writing this. Hope you have enjoyed...............................All the Best

LOVE

LOVE

Sometimes i wonder what is there in every relationship that keeps the bond so intact that it last for the rest of ones life. The only answer i get for this is 'LOVE'. Love is the prime factor which is keeping a relationship entact and everlasting. Other things that comes in is faith, belief, trust, respect, etc, but its the love that makes a person feel about the other whether they are your parents, siblings, relatives, friends or enemies. Now what is Love? A very simple question with the most difficult answer that no one can say. All the answers for this doesn't stop with a full stop (.) but with continuation with dots (...). If a person says he knows what is love then its sure that he doesnt know the true meaning of love. Let me give you an example, can you describe the love between you with your mother [The use of Mother rather than Parents is intensional :0)], if you can then either you are compared to be a holy sage or you are an idiot. Humans are really lucky to have a taste of love. Each and everyone gets love and it starts before a person opens his/her eyes in this world. Its starts within the dark world that keeps the child alive and healthy. I bet if any mother doesn't loves his child and dont want, then that child wont see this world, thats my belief. Its true that the love for that child that keeps him telling that you need to come to this world and give love and happiness to others. There are different kinds of love as you know, all having a different level of commitment and priorities that may vary from person to person. The love that i put at the top is of mother towards her children. No love and relationship can superseed this as the love of mother towards her children is without any reason and intension. Now to say a couple of sentence about love: 'Love is a bridge that connects people from heart to heart so that they can think the same and remain united'. 'Love is a sweet dream that onces come in your sleep, try not to wake up so as to give happiness to others'. 'Love is the greatest bond that unites two so that they become one'. Love is like extracting water from a rock, you know you might not get anything, but you still try because you have belief that you can make that ordinary rock into life giving for others'. For me Love is sacrifise... When you say you are in love, always ready to give without even a thought that you will get even a single thing back. Its very hard to think like that as we are humans and always live in a world of expectations, but thats why love is supposed to be difficult to go along in a persons entire life.

The next and the most important love is between a guy and girl that results in a life long relationship (marriage). This is the love that everybody looks for, each one needs a partner that loves to his entire life and keep on loving. This relationship is also very delicate as it involves in a lot of expectation, sorrow, sacrifice and cries. I am not saying each relationship needs to test the credibility and trust from the partners, but if you are in love, then the sacrifice thing needs to be remembered and the others will automatically comes in your life. Well i hope that no relation should get the worst side of love and each one gets his/her love of life. The important thing to note in any relationship is that its not important if you love someone, the best and worth is if any person loves you. If thats the case, then you will get to know your value. Also sometimes people say true love, i dont understand what they mean about..... Its love, love can't be true or false, it's love and only LOVE :-)

Well i will end my story now as its the never ending topic and i am not the best person to say more on this, but i have got this love from my parents, my siblins, my relatives, my friends. And one thing that for everyone there is one exist, hidden deep in heart having an image, its just the right time that picture will come after you and you will have your partner standing infront of you. Just close your eyes and recall all who loves and care for you, then you will get to know your importance and the love for them in your heart will increase more and more.

Thanks for listening and its Love that will make a difference.

Aged 12 and looking after the Family

Aged 12 and looking after the Family

Monday Feb 05, 2007
The title of the story was the serial I saw on Feb 05 on iTV channel. The name itself suggests what will be the content of the serial, but when I watched I really felt amazed, surprised and emotional. The serial showed about two families whose children were taking care of the entire family in a small age of 12. The first family that it showed consists of father, mother and six children. The parents have a very weak visibility and they have two elder daughters and 4 younger sons, one being less than a year old. The two sisters look after the entire family. One aged I think 14 and the other 12 years. The first question that was asked to them was “What you do after coming from school?” and not the obvious answer as in normal case was preparing food, taking the clothes from machine, cleaning, changing the nappies of the young ones, preparing tea. The way the girl told this penetrated deep in my heart and I thought what a big responsibility in such a small age. Also in the morning the two sisters used to get up by 07:00 AM and prepare the breakfast for all, milk for the little brother and dressed everyone then they get themselves ready for school. This was there usual work and the worst thing I found that both the parents use to smoke everyday and even the lady was pregnant, she didn’t left smoking. But I can’t say they are bad, as they can’t do all the things properly and when asked by the presenter as to why they don’t help the two girls, they relied saying that we don’t want to get themselves in trouble because of poor visibility and not able to do works such as prepare milk for the kid, etc. Also as obvious, the two daughters sometimes get frustrated and the younger one tried something that at this age no one can expect to do so. And when asked why she tried to do this, she was short of answer. But the best part I like about the two girls is that they love there parents and don’t have any objection if they have another child. They were really brave and didn’t afraid of any responsibilities and told that its now part of there life and they know that they have to do this in order to relieve there parents. This is an answer that most of the adults dare to say and not willing to be with there parents. When asked the elder girl is she gonna have her own children, she replied ‘NO’ and told that I have already done my job to grow up the children and when the presenter asked is your decision will change in near future, she replied a confident answer as ‘NEVER’. It was just the sight to see her answering with such great confidence and imagine aged 14. Also mentioned the two girls were good in studies.
The next family shown was about a family with a mother and a son aged 14. He was taking care of his Mother for the past 5 years as her mother had a problem of serious pain on her whole body except hands and feet. She sometime felt so uneasy that she cannot move herself and be in bed for the whole day. The day starts for the son at 6:30 AM when he prepares breakfast for himself and for her mother. He does all the things including cleaning, preparing food, washing, ironing, and finally to carry on with his studies. When asked what you gonna do when you need to go out for higher studies, he was confused and told ‘don’t know’. Also when the same question was asked to her mother, she cried. I thought she knows it will be very difficult or impossible for her to carry on with normal living. Both the family and specially the kids touched me with the way they have make there life towards there family. This is the best example I saw ‘to live for others’ and sacrificing there childhood when they are supposed to be playing with toys and getting fed by there parents. But the kids were happy and proud of there parents and want to do more for them and that’s what the motivational factor that everyone should take and try to do not this much, but atleast something either towards his/her family or friends or others. Thanks for Listening

Friend

Friend
‘A friend in need is a friend indeed’

Hi Guys,
To start writing on this topic, I would first thank all the ones who considered me as there friend. Being nothing infront of them, the way they considered me and stand right with me in times of need. Thank you all for being there with me at all times and alwaysJ

It really a very hard topic when comes in terms of writing and expressing the relationship as a friend. But the fact is it’s the most beautiful relationship (of course the relationship with your parents will always remain at top in any situation) a person can have. If you have a single person being a guy or a girl, no matter to be called as a true friend, then you don’t have to worry and you can assure to share all your secrets and worst with him/her. But there is always a thin line between a friend, best friend and a true friend. You people must be thinking, what is the difference between a best friend and a true friend. Well the best example which I can give you is when you face any problem, the best friend will tell you the solution for it so as to overcome with your hard time, a true friend on the other hand gets along with you and tries to get you out from the situation considering this as his problem. Hence you might have many friends that you can call as your best friends, but to find a true friend is really difficult and if you have one, then you are one of the luckiest people in this world. I think most of you agree on the fact that we might not make friends only by the looks, and if you are agreed with the fact then you are among some intelligent people. Looks matter no doubt, but not the primary factor as look without anything else is good for nothing and that person cannot be put among your eyes as friend. Each person has some or the other qualities as no one are perfect, but still there are some differences that makes group of people and that’s how it is. The question that amazes me is “What you look in a friend?” The answer of this can’t be generalized as each one is having a different perspective of looking things and everyone has its own priorities and standards to judge. Some might look the dressing first whereas others look the behaviour and the way a person talks with other. I have been in touch with so many people both guys and girls and still I don’t have a firm answer to say what impresses me and I can go along with that person so as to call as my friend. Also the most important factor that I understand is that you have a certain age group where you can make friends and that friendship promises to be for life long. That doesn’t means that friendship made at a professional and later ages will not go for long, but still that’s very rare. The best and long lasting friendship that you can hear from people are from there school days and that’s more than 90%, you will find the people saying about there friendship from school days.
Now what a friend is supposed to do for you or what you expects from a friend. The universal fact is that all the relationships that a person holds have some intentions. A relation without an intention cannot exist. Many people deny this fact, but that’s not at all true. When you become younger, you expect your parents to get all the comforts for you, when you become adult and get married, you expect your life partner to be trustworthy. And when you become old, you expect your children’s to take care of you. So how can a friendship survive without intention? Well I put that as expectation as it doesn’t sounds that rude. So we all have certain expectations with others and others might have with us. A friend who stands to your expectations can be said as your best/true friend. For me a true friend is one who understands me more than myself and always keeps checking that whatever I am doing is good for all. Also not only he is a friend of me, but taking care of my near and dear ones (my family). I am really proud to say that I have couple of true friends and far better than me and really it’s a feeling of proud to associate myself with them. The best way to judge a person on the first go is by his face. Everyone likes to have a friend charming, loving, cool, caring and trustworthy. Well the face look won’t show you all, but a quite face with a decent smile, good courtesy and giving you attention and respect can be the one you want to have as a friend. The other qualities of the friend can be found later, but the first thing that a girl should care of is to keep her dignity and courtesy first and not to get excited. Girls who are energetic and talkative (Well all girls are talkativeJ) and the one who can’t keep her excitement can show a different picture towards guy and they might be gonna thinking in a different way. Also the worst problem that no one should ever get into any relation is ‘Attitude’. A person having an attitude problem can never be a good friend and also can’t make any friends that he/she can call as there best friends. Also there is a difference between ‘pride’ and ‘proud’. A person should always be proud to be as a best friend rather than pride, as it will spoil your friendship in future for sure. Also being a best friend, you should give respect to your best mate’s friend. And finally its all about the taste and likes and dislikes that can be a factor for you to choose a friend. Well there’s a lot and lots to tell about friendship, but for me you should respect this relationship and always tries to come upto the expectations of your friend.

The girl who used to prove herself

Back with a new story of a girl, that use to prove herself J. This is not the story of that girl only but many I suppose. But I was fortunate to have a chance to meet her, worked with her and enjoyed the best of my time here in abroad. Well I will tell you the qualities of her later in the story. So now, lets start…………………..

Feb 03, 2007
I said Good Bye to her as she drove in the taxi to Heathrow Airport along with other two colleagues to India. India what can I say about my country. The only land which allows and accepts each individual with pride and honour. Well there are lots and lots of things to tell about India, that I will do later in a new story. I will start going 2 months back when she arrived here for a business trip for our clients. I was already here for a month and getting used to people and climate. I was told that one girl (I am not using the name as girls are very idiot kind J) will be coming and will be reporting to the same office as I am. Actually from our team I was the only one that was in a different office and the rest of our managers are in a different office. I talked with her only once when she was in India to enquire about her accommodation. When I talked with her I thought she might be 26-27 and married. I think talking on phone might give a different picture and she also thought that I am a guy with aged 30+ and married. Well its good to have an initial picture in mind so that when you meet it will be easy to cancel out the points that you made for that person. I also looked out for her accommodation, but I think all the others were more interested than me and everyone was asking me questions as to “When she is coming?”, “How is she? Look wise?”, etc etc. And the only answer I gave to them is that I don’t know her and when she will come you can meet her. Finally the day came when she reached here and my manager called me that how she will go with you to that office. There is also a long story regarding to update our client regarding her visit so that they can arrange laptop for her and desk, phone, etc. I bugged my offshore manager like anything and he must have cursed me on that, but it was just to make the clients aware about her visit. Well atlast on the day before her travel my manager sent out the mail to the clients about her visit. After seeing that mail the client saw me and I told them “Thank God, finally they mailed you with a smile J”. I told my manager that I goes to office by 08:35 bus and I will wait for her. The next question he asked me whether you have seen her and my obvious answer was “NO”. So he told me that I will also come and will introduce you to her. I thought in my mind, “even if you wont introduce me, she needs to bare Abdul. Ha ha ha”. I think all the other people across different project know about her travel and arrival and was eagerly waiting. My room mates were also asking everyday and when I tell them that I don’t know then they used to inform me about her status, I just have a surprise look only. I used to reach bus stop at 8:25 AM and was waiting for my manager and the girl. My manager came on time at 8:30, but we couldn’t see any sign of her. The bus arrived and I was getting angry as I never allowed anyone else to spoil my timings and never for a girl that I don’t know, but I had no other go as I was with my manager. Finally at 8:35 she arrived and I just said ‘Hi’ to her and ‘Bye’ to my manager and get into the bus along with her. I first got an impression that she is a lazy girl, but then I realized as it’s the first day, so acceptable. And now by now she must have known that I am very punctual of my timings. When I came here, I was given a visitors pass and I used that for 2 days as my ID card got delayed because of some problem with the machine. And the same card I gave to this girl, and the same day while entering into the bus, she gave that pass to the driver. When I asked her where the pass is, she told “The driver took from me”. That was the start when she proved herself. She later disagreed that the driver asked her to give the pass and then enter. Well I said ‘Forget it….’
We came to the office and I introduced her to the clients and to the manager, he then gave her the laptop and selected a place she can establish her dock station. Well that dock station never worked, but she got a nice big monitor that can visible from several feet’s, that’s a real advantage as you can’t open your personal sites full screen ;). I was right as she was new to support and doesn’t know anything about the process that a support project follows also she was new to Motorola. I tried to make her comfortable and the first thing I asked her is to follow it up with our manager to get the Id card, as if she fails to do so, then she needs to pay in the bus. This is the second one for her, when she got the ID on our client name rather than getting a contractor ID. I asked her what you told him, she said “I am working for Motorola”. What you are thinking, I just laughed….. the next thing she asked me “Where is the toilet?”. I couldn’t answer this question as I was there in that office for 22 days and I don’t know where ladies toilet is? I told her to ask one of the lady sitting close to me and she did the same. I thought what an idiot I am, always talking about girls, but don’t know where is the toilet in the office. Well I told her that I never bother about that as its not topic of concern, but one important thing I learnt, that you should have all these information’s. Its lunch time nowJ, she asked me when you go for lunch and I told her that I used to have my lunch at my desk only as I don’t like to have alone. We went for lunch in the canteen that was the second time in 22 days I was entering the canteen. To tell you, our canteen was horrible as you won’t get good food and it’s too costly. I am not a hard worker and used to take breaks quite often, either toilets or coffee. Well during the course of her stay, we used to follow timings of our lunch and evening coffee. She was very nice bringing biscuits and chocolates and we used to have during our tea break. As we were in the beginning of the application transition, she used to come up with her doubts and also I try to make aware how to proceed about the KT and what things that you need to ask. She listens to me as I thought; she has no other go and need to bare me. One day she ping me and told me that you are showing as PL for me. I told her “Then from now on you listen to me whatever I say”. Within a week or so, she got comfortable and we became friends. As we were at the same age group, it’s easy for me to make friends and also she is a very jolly kinda person taking things coolly and enjoys every moment. Oh I didn’t describe her: well she is 5’5”, grey, medium hair, nice chubby face, sharp eyebrows, attractive eyes, elegant smile and not the least a nice person to have as a friend with whom you can share your joy, not sorrow as being a friend I don’t wanna make her sad. Gradually I used get open with her and share my secrets as there was no one with whom I can share when I feel sometimes being alone and want the company of the best person available. She is a real kid in terms of her behaviour and used to do stupid things everyday and I used to count for her everyday. It was a real fun and time pass in her company and I hope she too have enjoyed with me. We used to have calls daily with our company managers to discuss the transition activity and I used to listen songs from her mobile that she got recently for £100. It was Sony Eriksson W350i. Nice and good phone and I like to enjoy the songs. Well days passes and everyday one or the other stupidity from her makes both of us happy and I used to trouble her with my stupid and high fundu comments and she says “OH MY GOD”. She used to tell about her landlords and what they tell her everyday. They liked her very much and really took care of her as there child and I used to be a bit jealous as I always missed my parents as I haven’t seen them when I came here. I used to tell her that it’s the proof that you are still a kid and behaves like that. I know she likes to be treated as a kid and everyone should take care of her. She was lucky as she got a very nice group at home and outside. This doesn’t include me. I used to bug her after office by calling her and sometime at mid night and she used to reply me by miss call. One day my room mates and she along with her room mate went to watch the movie ‘Guru’. We had dinner first and then enjoyed the movie. That was the best weekend for me and we talked, eat and enjoyed like anything. She on her first meeting became comfortable with my room mates also. One day we were invited by one of our dear colleague and her wife (my so called Didi) prepared nice and delicious food for us. The sweet was really very sweet; I think my Di would have put her finger in that so that it became so tasty. Also the day before yesterday, we all project team went out for dinner and bowling game. We all enjoyed like anything and she too with all other mates. I like those kinds of people that gets mingle with people easily without having an attitude problem and that’s the quality I found in her and she was also really very caring and advises me to wear cap and sweater in cold etc. Also I am having a bad habit to cut the skin of my finger and she told me not to spoil my fingers, but I couldn’t resist that and I am really sorry for that. After office we usually go to shop to buy house stuffs. She used to ask everyday are you coming to town centre to buy something and I most of the time said ‘No’. Now no one is gonna ask me this question and I have to go alone. Also now to whom I will bug and give miss call at night. It always happens to me, whenever I got good and caring friends, they won’t be with me for long. Well I think that’s how life goes on and you can’t do anything….. Now I am gonna end my story with some sentiments and emotions.
For the last one week, I saw a mixed reaction on her face, with a feeling of joy to go back to India and meet family, friends and her life partner. I can’t say she will miss something here, but ya atleast for some days, his friends, relatives out here, her landlord and office and some great clients. She constantly told me that “You will miss me?” and I used give a loud laugh, but I know she would have got the feeling of loneliness that I will face in office. I don’t know she gonna miss me, but I tried to make her comfortable and happy by doing silly things, but I am gonna miss her. Now there will be no one to count for her foolishness and getting biscuits and chocolates. She also made couple of good friends in office and couple of annoying ones. Today she left for her ultimate destination and I deeply from my heart wished her ‘All the Best’ and ‘Good Luck’. Hope she will do best in her project and impress everyone. This is also a good opportunity to say her sorry if I would have hurt her or told her any stupid sentence. I am really a dodo that doesn’t check if I get involved nicely with people.
Ok its time for me to say good bye and prepare myself for another story.

One day I am gonna die - A thought

One day I am gonna die
Never thought what will happen after that
Will someone miss me?
Will someone cry for me?
Will I be remembered?
Will people talk good about me?
I had all these sorts of questions, when I thought
One day I am gonna die.
I then try to find out the answers to the questions,
What I have done till now in my life?
Have I given my near and dear ones any pleasure?
Have I proved the statement “A friend in need is a friend indeed”?
Have I given my family all the comforts that I promised?
Have I stand to the expectations of my beloved?
Have I truly loved someone?
Have I given my shoulder to someone in need?
Have I given anyone my smile and took the grief from them?
Have I shared my happiness and shared the sadness of someone?
Have I helped an elderly person?
Have I done something good to nature?
I was shocked seeing the list, when I tried to find answers to my questions
Now it’s time for me to work on,
To put ‘YES’ for all the answers,
I need to be remembered,
I need to be loved,
I need to missed, and for all this
I will give myself to the people I love.
All this came to my mind, when I thought
One day I am gonna die…

Marketing... In my words

Marketing

I am not an MBA to give a lecture on what marketing is, but I can just put that in simple words, might be it wrong from the technical perspective and so for that apology in advance. Marketing as the work consists of Market is the term used to aware the people about any product. The product can be as small as a needle to as big as a country. Well why I used country is now we have many ads marketing people to visit country so as to increase tourism. The most popular example is the Ad of Malaysia tourism with the punch line “Malaysia – Truly Asia”. The way Marketing is so popular and a prerequisite for any promotion activity is not the same couple of decades ago, yes but the word exists. I think marketing and promotion go hand in hand or might be same. To promote something, we need to market and for that business involves various strategies to do so. Marketing is to make visible your product and to put in the way so as to make them in line with the requirement of the common man or a class of society. Today’s marketing seriously looking this factor as to what section of society they will have an impact of there product. To make any business or product successful, it needs to follow the 4P principle (given by Jack Welch I think… not sure) and in that one of the ‘P’ stands for Promotion and that is possible by marketing. The other ‘Ps’ stand for ‘Place’, ‘Price’ and [can’t recall the 4th]. Today the marketing strategy uses all means of communication which includes from the traditional hoardings and banners, television to internet. Today it’s all marketing, if you won’t market your product, the people won’t know the benefits and use of your product. Today the organizations and industries are working hard and investing millions of money on marketing strategy so as to reach to a mass group of people, not bounded within there own country, but across the globe and its the proper marketing strategy that will lead them to the top of the world or can demolish in this competitive and ever growing market.